It seems that every year, the age for acceptably wearing makeup is getting younger and younger. I remember a time when it was frowned upon for anyone younger then high school to wear any makeup. And now it seems like girls in elementary school are wearing some form of makeup every day, to school. It seems that the question to be asking would be, “Is it okay for a tween to be wearing makeup and if so where/when is it appropriate to be worn?”.
Most of our girls are not in beauty pageants (don’t get me started on those and the amount of makeup they have young girls wearing to complete), so there are many reasons to keep young girls from wearing it. In today’s world, it is our job to help keep our kids kids for as long as possible. The media, tv shows, their friends, have such a push to grow up (and wearing makeup is a step in growing up); we as parents should help our girls enjoy being little girls. There is no reason for a tween to be in a full face of makeup, making her look like she is 17. That might be getting her attention that she likes, but it will almost always be the wrong type of attention.
On the other hand, there are a few over looked perks of letting your tween wear makeup. I consider a tween to be an 11 or 12 year old (anything less makeup should be a bare minimum and only for very very special events). At that age, your daughter still thinks that you are cool enough to know what is going on. They still trust you to let them know when they look good, verses wearing to much. They are still at an age where, while starting to branch out and becoming their own person, they still want to be like you. You can take advantage of this; by showing them how to apply it, when it is appropriate to wear it, and when they have applied to much or it is to dark for their age.
My daughter Tink, is one of those tweens that is allowed to wear makeup most days. For me, I decided that it would be okay for a few reasons: fist she wanted to wear it. And had for quite awhile. Second, I wanted her to still be close enough to me to trust that I knew what I was talking about. Trust how I was showing her to apply it, would make her look her best and trust that I would never let her leave the house looking like a clown. I wanted to be the show her how, not some random teenage friend who is trying to figure it out themselves.
So then, what is she allowed to wear and when. Well, my daughter wears makeup just about every day. But before you get on me for letting my 11 year wear makeup all the time, we do online school (I think that if she went to school, in her age appropriate grade level, I would not let her wear it to school) and she is actually in the 8th grade, so when we see friends they are mostly 13 year olds. If it is a typical day (errands, grabbing lunch and seeing a friend), she likes to wear mascara (since her eyelashes are blonde, they are nearly impossible to see), primer (we like Benefits Porefessional, it helps control the redness on her face that she gets from me), and a little lipgloss or a lip crayon. Very natural, very low makeup look, and just focusing on enhancing natural beauty. It’s not a whole lot, but enough to make her feel put together and a little more polished. If we are going out for dinner or charity event, she is allowed to either wear; full eye makeup (shadows, liners, mascara) in any color she likes and a clear lip gloss OR a simple eye (just mascara) and a bold lip (she is a huge fan of red lips). But never both (but many adults can’t seem to pull off both either).
What about you guys, do you let your tween daughters wear makeup? Do you think it is silly for a tween to be wearing makeup on a daily basis? If you only have sons, what are you thoughts when we see a tween girl out and about wearing it?