At some point or another, almost everyone succumbs to a frightening reality that they have issues that need addressing as soon as possible. Many hurdles
in life are thrown at us but it isn’t the fact that we have problems that is the, well, problem, but it’s how we deal with them.
There is no shame in finding yourself in a situation where you need help, identified by missing work, spending money you don’t have, or getting into trouble with the law. We are all human and we all make mistakes, but it is learning from those mistakes that most people struggle with.
There are multiple things in life that can go wrong, either through bad decisions, being with the wrong crowd, or even under the thumb of someone else, and some of the most common issues people face today include:
- Drink and drug dependency
- Domestic abuse
- Criminal children
Alcoholism and drug abuse are at an all-time high but there is help available while domestic abuse has skyrocketed since the Covid-19 pandemic began and even the best parents can have problems with their children, for many reasons.
Drink and Drugs
Issues with alcohol and other drugs such as diamorphine (heroin), methamphetamine (crystal/ecstasy), and cocaine or crack are at the worst they have ever been, all over the world. Even the effects of a dependency on a legal drug such as alcohol, cigarettes, and even marijuana in some countries and states can be just as absolutely devastating as illicit drugs.
In the United States alone, alcohol accounts for approximately 95,000 deaths per year while drug-related deaths accounted for 81,230 fatalities from May 2019 to May 2020. The health effects and financial burden placed on people addicted to a substance are usually the root cause of many types of crimes such as theft, violence, and prostitution.
While there are many different reasons why people turn to drugs and alcohol such as abusive relationships, traumatic childhoods or events, and even boredom, the good news is that there is always help available for those who want it, and studies have shown that you must want it.
Should you find yourself in a drug or alcohol-dependent situation, the first step is to acknowledge and realize that you actually have an issue because it is impossible to help someone who doesn’t actually want it. The 12 steps program has shown great success in helping people overcome issues but it requires strong dedication. There are also various charities and organizations that can provide free advice and services relating to these issues.
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One of the most tragic circumstances anyone can find themselves in is a situation of domestic abuse, and this applies to both men and women. Domestic abuse refers to the physical or psychological torment of a person from someone within their own households such as a family member, spouse, or parent. The issue can range from passive-aggressive behavior and verbal abuse to physical violence and sexual assault.
Figures from the United Kingdom’s Office for National Statistics show a sharp increase in police complaints concerning domestic abuse incidents during the first Covid-19 national lockdown and then again during the current, second lockdown, but this has only served to highlight the presence of abusive domestic situations as more offenders happened to be at home with their family or partner.
Many people all over the world find themselves in what can be categorized as domestic abuse situations every day, and in most cases, the actions of the abuser escalate from relatively low-level crime to extremely serious. Why this happens is beyond the scope of this post and is subject to professional scrutiny, but there is always help available.
One of the first things you can do is inform someone of what is happening whether it’s another relative, professional, or a friend, however many sufferers of domestic violence either have no one to turn to or feel that they don’t. While you can call the police, in most situations, absent strong evidence of a crime there is little that they can do, which contributes to the problem.
For advice and help you can contact various charities and organizations:
National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health: http://www.nationalcenterdvtraumamh.org/resources/national-domestic-violence-organizations/
We like to think that crime is committed by adults making bad decisions, drug or alcohol-related, or by the criminally insane, but the fact is that a large proportion of crime is committed by children under 16. On average, around 15% of all crime is perpetrated by those under 16. The reasons for this might vary but even seemingly good kids can find themselves in trouble ranging from relatively harmless “kid stuff” like minor vandalism or shoplifting to serious assaults and murder.
While it’s easy to blame the movies, TV, and/or video games, violent or criminal behavior by a child, especially absent traumatic external factors, could indicate a more serious underlying issue. ADHD and certain types of autism have recently been linked to juvenile crime if they aren’t diagnosed and treated early enough, and the children are essentially written off as a “problem child” by authorities and the school system.
Many parents suffer behavioral issues from their children and this is nothing to be embarrassed about. Many children are still learning how to behave, even up to the age of 13, which is why in most countries a child under the age of 13 isn’t legally culpable of some offenses. Even beyond the age of 13, some people may show behavioral issues but will eventually grow out of childish behavior as they take on more responsibility such as going to college or landing a job.
Of course, in many cases, a child can simply be hanging out with the wrong people and while we all like to think of our kids as good, they can be influenced by someone they look up to, usually an older friend. While it might not be feasible to know where your children are and who they are with at all times, care should be taken to at least identify the people that they spend their time with and whether they are suitable to be around your children.
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