Whether you are pregnant already or are trying to conceive, you will be well aware that your life is about to completely change. From the moment you see that positive result on your pregnancy test, you are, in effect, already a Mother. You change your lifestyle immediately, and you are already thinking about the new arrival above everything else. Your priorities change as well as a lot of other things in order to accommodate the baby. No matter who you are, the baby becomes the prime focus, and you and your partner are on the back burner. If this is your first child, you will be going through a whole range of emotions, from wondering what it is actually like, having your very own baby, to worrying that everything will be okay. If you already have children, you may be worried about how your other children will take the news. All you can do is take every day as it comes and prepare as best as you can. To help you, here are a few things to think about:
Remember to Take Care of You
It is very easy to get so caught up in the preparations and the endless reading about learning about babies that you neglect yourself. Although you will be probably eating well and taking prenatal vitamins, you need to spend some time on yourself as well. You don’t want to become over-stressed or burnt out before h baby comes. There are many symptoms of being pregnant that will make you feel and act in a certain way, and it is best that you understand the emotional effects of pregnancy just as much as the physical. You will probably not be super excited every moment, so remember to pamper yourself a little. Perhaps that means going to the hairdressers, seeing friends, having that romantic meal ou with your partner. Ensure you let your partner know if you are feeling down and if you can explain why, all the better. AS long as you keep the lines of communication open, you will fare a lot better. If you find you are getting overly stressed, perhaps speak to your midwife, or partake in a few mindfulness sessions. If you are happy and relaxed, that is great for the baby when he or she arrives.
Your Support Network
Having a baby is a happy time for all the family. Most family members would love to get involved in your baby’s life in some way or another. Even if you have had rocky relationships in the past, a baby is a perfect opportunity to heal those bonds. No matter who you are, you are going to need hello at some time or another, whether that bat a babysitter or someone to pop down the shop for you when you a completed tied under. Having some people to rely on and call on n those moments is a great thing to have. It can help relieve a lot of stress, and it is great for the baby to have a few more people around them who really care. No one can raise a baby on their own. The more help you can enlist before the baby comes, the better for all concerned.
If you haven’t already started doing so beforehand, as soon as you discover you are pregnant, you should try and save as much money as you can. Every pound you save will ease the stress of the first few months and even years. It definitely helps if you have a financial cushion to fall back on just in case your plans do not exactly go as you expect. Additionally, try and make the best use of coupons and other baby-related savings. There are a lot of apps that can help you and offer a lot of freebies and savings off essential it. So, take a look around. Also, ensure you check out the second-hand market. Sometimes you can find a lot of items being given away for free, like newborn nappies. Also, do not be too proud to borrow from family members who have just recently had babies and see if they have anything you can make use of. Anything you can get for free is a huge bonus.
Begin Stocking Up
It is not a good idea to start worrying about all the essential baby items a couple of days before the baby comes. This is something you should be doing as soon as you discover you are pregnant. There are so many items you will need. You could create a checklist or download one that will tell you exactly what you need. You will need plenty of disposable items such as nappies and wipes, as well as clothes and bibs. You also need a whole range of larger items such as a crib, pram, car seat etc., so the sooner you start hunting for these items, the more bargains you will find and the more prepared you will be.
Let Your Other Children Know
If you have other children, you may well be wondering when best to tell them. If they are very young, under the age of three, it may be best to wait until the third trimester. A nine-month wait for a baby at that age is going to be difficult to understand, and you will not be showing any physical symptoms that they can understand if you do it too early. For older children, the earlier, the better, probably toward the end of the first trimester. When you tell them, be sure to arm yourself with a whole range of answers to questions as you cannot know how they will react. They could be massively excited or a little scared and worried and everything in between. Do your homework and get some advice from other mothers before you do this. Above all, make sure that they know they are not being replaced, that they are still loved and will always be cared for.
Speak to Other Parents
This is especially helpful if you have not had any children. Speaking to other parents and how they coped with the first few months and years can give you a little forewarning. You will have a whole range of questions, and there is nothing quite like asking someone who has only just had kids about their experiences. Just listening and building a picture of what life could be like will definitely help you mentally prepare. You obviously already know that your life will change, but the extent of it is unknowable until you have the baby. However, first-hand accounts from recently new parents will definitely help you fill in a few blanks and help you make better plans to ensure your new home will be a happy home.
Spend Some Time with Children
Unless you have children or your job is in a nursery, you may not have that much access to children. However, you will know someone who has children that you could pay a few visits to. If you can use this time to learn about children in a real-world environment, it helps put a little bit of the theory into practice. Being pregnant, knowing you have a kid on the way, will help you make the most of these interactions as if they are practice. Every child is different, and there is no way you can know what kind of personality your child will have. However, with more experience, you have the more it will help you when it comes to your own.