Moving to a new house can be a big step in your family’s life. It means a complete change of scenery in the home – and it could also mean you move to an entirely new setting. A lot can be different after a move, so it’s not a decision to take lightly.
Naturally, you’ll have so many things to think about before deciding if a move is right for you. With that in mind, a lot of parents wonder if they should consult their kids about this sort of thing. Should you ask for their opinions and see how they feel about potentially moving? Or, is this a decision that’s strictly for the adults to make?
You can make arguments for or against this, so let’s look at both sides of the equation!
Yes, you should consult your kids
For me, asking your kids about the move is important in a few instances.
Firstly, if your children are of a certain age then they deserve to be involved in the decision-making process. Let’s say you have teenage kids who are in the middle of their studies. They’re moving towards a very important stage in their lives, so it wouldn’t be fair to just move homes without consulting them. Let them know this is a possibility and see how they feel.
Who knows, they might actually want to move house if they don’t like their school or are struggling to make friends. Or, they’d be open to moving, just after they’ve completed some important exams.
Secondly, consulting your kids is a good idea if you’re moving a long way away. Before you sell your home and get some interstate movers to transport your life to the other side of the country, ask your kids how they’d feel about this. A move like this is massive for them as they will have to change schools and start a new life.
No, you don’t need to consult your kids
On the other hand, you can argue that your kids shouldn’t be consulted if they’re really young and don’t truly understand what’s happening. After all, will you get a genuine discussion out of a five-year-old?
Likewise, if you’re moving to a new house in the same city, is it worth consulting your kids – even if they’re teenagers? They’ll go to the same school, and maintain the same friends; it’s not going to impact their lives too much.
Informing your children of a potential move is always a good idea to help them prepare for it. However, it isn’t always necessary to consult them and ask for their opinion on it. When your kids get a bit older, you tend to value their opinions a bit more. Here, it can be useful to know what they think about the situation, possibly encouraging you to delay the move until later in life. Likewise, if you’re moving a long way away, it is useful to get their opinion as it affects them arguably more than you. Obviously, the adults always have the final say, but it can be handy to see how your kids feel before making a decision in some situations.